So… you’ve decided to turn your back on everything that you used to believe, everything that was engraved in your mind since you were a child, every teaching that gave you motivation to be a good person and make wise decisions. Well, to you we say… Congratulations!

Congratulations on the beginning of a new journey of open-mindedness and self-discovery. However, this is not an easy journey. It takes a lot of courage and often results in loss of friendships and abandonment by family members. Frustration, anger, and depression are very common side effects of losing your belief, and this sequela can be seriously dangerous.

This blog has been created so that we can help each other to diminish these unfortunate outcomes and to learn how to truly enjoy this new open-mindedness. If your intention is to find a place to rant about how ridiculous your former religion is, then you need to keep surfing the web. This site is about understanding, healing, and and helping each other find motivation to remain ethical, moral, sane and upright even when your belief system has collapsed.

Sour Relationships

After leaving a religion, there are bound to be some lost relationships. Here is where we can explore ideas to mend these relationships in a healthy manner.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I think just as much as you want people (whether it be family, old friends, or acquaintances) to see things from your perspective, they probably want the same in return. They probably want to change your mind, to fix things. The problem with this is that we each see the world through our own lens, a lens that is shaped by the experiences we have and the people we encounter. You can’t expect to look through another person’s lens and see things clearly, not unless you’ve experienced the same things they have. To even get the slightest glimpse into another person’s perspective, it takes time and requires that each person let down their guard. They need to be susceptible to the other person’s opinion without completely disregarding it simply because it’s something they don’t want to hear.
I am sure you have encountered a whole host of people that upon hearing of your recent decisions have raised their guards even higher, to the point of shutting you out completely. I recommend (and this is just little old anonymous me), using your own discretion to determine what relationships are worth working for. Approach those individuals with the intent to understand them before being understood by them. Hopefully progress will be made and whala, friendships restored!